Please share your D&C experience. I'm a wreck

Good afternoon ladies,

I recently learned, at our first scan, that our baby didn't develop much past 6 weeks. I have sadly been through this before, but this time has felt really, really different. In the past, our pregnancy losses were part of a long IVF journey that was drawn out because of $, stress, and discouragement. Then, after years of trying and losses, we had a successful pregnancy and we have a beautiful, perfect toddler now.

Labor and delivery with him though was traumatizing - every intervention imaginable, had to re-do an epidural 2-3 times, once because they realized I have scoliosis and the second time because it lost its effect and I needed an emergency C-section. And on and on.

Then new parenthood during the pandemic.

My husband and I are hanging in there, but it's been tough.

Imagine our shock when I naturally got pregnant in mid Nov. Sadly, there was only more fertility/pregnancy heartache waiting, and the medical protocol didn't work. I have to get a d&c.

I know this procedure is super common. But I haven't had it before and cannot help expecting the worst. I had to sign the surgery release form at the doctor's office today and all I can think is that ALL of the possible risks are going to happen to me, because that's what happened when I delivered my son.

I shared all of this with the doctor, but I'm home now just thinking the worst again.

If you've been through it and it went ok, I am so here for your experience!! It would really help.😢😕❤️