Please please read. ⤵️

My family is going to Universal Orlando this February for my nephew’s 11th birthday, we’re all HUGE Harry Potter fans, I’ve never been to the parks before. My 11 month old and I are invited to come everything is included (flight, park tickets, food, hotel). When I asked my boyfriend if it was okay to bring the baby in this trip he flat out said no - his “reasons” included “the baby is too young”, “she shouldn’t fly, “something could happen”, “he won’t be there” and “no, I’m saying no”. My mom is coming on this trip and she used to take care of our daughter, so she will be helping me with the baby - still said no. He told me that instead of thinking of going away I should be thinking of working and paying bills, I work full time and have vacation time so that will be covered - still said no. I was in quarantine with the baby for 4 months and I had postpartum depression, and the year overall has been very stressful so it’ll be good to go away and enjoy myself - he said no. I reminded him that three years ago I was supposed to go on this same trip, but instead I had to get a 12 hour operation to get a golf sized tumor out of my head - he said no. I told him everything will be arranged so the baby is safe, and well that I know how to take care of our daughter per his own words I am a good mama - the answer is no. At this point I am so mad at him (crying) because I feel he’s doing it out of spite, so I told him I’ll not forgive him from keeping me from this experience, that he was selfish, and that we better think about our future together because I don’t want to grow old with a selfish person by my side. He said “you can go but the baby is not going anywhere” he sure knows I am not going anywhere without my baby. The reason I am here asking for advice is even though I understand that this is a trip that I could still go on later in life - I don’t understand how he can be so selfish, how he can keep me from spending time with my family that I don’t longer get to see enough. My heart feels heavy, I am disappointed in him. Am I over reacting?