So I’ll be 26 weeks this week, my pregnancy has been smooth but I’ve dealt with being sick a few times and general worries since I has three miscarriages prior. The last few months my husband and I have been a bit distant, he’s a bit weirded out by sex now that we can feel the baby but we still do other things to stay close. However there’s still just a disconnect. I asked him a few times over the months maybe 3 times or so what’s going on and he just would say nothing. But yesterday he finally admitted that he just finds me annoying now, and didn’t elaborate. I said “oh okay” feeling a bit hurt then he left to go get groceries for dinner. When he came back we didn’t really talk about it.

I feel like it’s not entirely fair, he’s in the military and last year we moved across country due to this and since we do not live on base and due to Covid I have basically no friends out here. I also work from home and we have one car due to the parking we are allotted so I’m basically always home. I keep everything clean and I don’t nag him about anything. If he wants to go do stuff with guys from work I don’t care I just ask that either Saturday or Sunday we spend together (at least one of our days off and he can go do whatever on the other day) yet he’s the one that always ends up wanting just us to go places.

I don’t really text him throughout the day unless it’s important, and when he gets home from work I give him his space to chill and everything before asking him how his day was. I just truly don’t see how I’m annoying to him? But he wouldn’t elaborate any further so now I don’t know what to do besides not talk to him?

We also haven’t even done much baby shopping or baby stuff. I know that it can get overwhelming for men with their first child, but literally all I’ve done is make a registry and buy a handful of things for the bedside nursery. I’ve asked him to come to target with me like 2 times to get some stuff and he is fine with driving me there but due to how busy it is in this city and his anxiety he will usually just sit in the car.