Me and my husband have 3ways and we talked about bringing another woman into our life. Nothing was ever set in stone as far as me and the other girl goes. We were both super drunk each time we had sex my husband was barely sober himself. He claims the last time we had sex he asked her to be our gf she remembered but didn’t agree. Apparently my husband thought because we all had sex and talk/text that it’s official. Well I found out yesterday that they slept together but when I asked he didn’t tell me. I was very high and went to sleep so he went over her house had a few shots and had sex. When I saw her message saying “damn who just leaves while they fucking” I lost it! punched him in the face and starting yelling and crying. He claims he thought we were in a relationship I told him we never solidified anything. I asked him 4 times what did they do when he went over there he said nothing just dranked,laughed and talked (her bff was there too). Did this man cheat on me off a technicality because im very pissed! Not to mention she didn’t say anything either so if it wasn’t for me going thru his phone I would have no idea.

Also he was the one who told me if he isn’t there its cheating and vise versa. Ive had plenty opportunities to be with women and didn’t.

@kate what are you even talking about? I never said I gave him the ok to be with other women. We agreed to 3sums not him one on one or me one on one.

@lulu The boundaries were set in place he is the one that made them. He didn’t know that me and the girl didn’t verbally agree to a relationship. Hence the confusion.

Evie: He may be confused idk if he even feels bad because we all still talk. I’ll talk to him about it later today. Im not with the open marriage only polygamy. He basically told me he thought everything was good to go. He set in place the whole “aint no fun if the homie can’t get nun” rule so I abide by it. Its always been this way up until now which is why im hurt.

@L I have no interest in being with another guy. I told him im only interested in females. If we break up i’d probably be with a woman tbh

@momma4 I am on board with it I was the one who wanted it but she just hasn’t agreed due to her free spiritness as she says. He thought because she said yeah while drunk that it’s official.

@kitkat Thank you so much for your response! We absolutely do need to discuss things going forward. I have no problem with 3sums or being poly as im the one who wanted this. This whole lifestyle is new to me and him we are learning and exploring together. I went into thinking it would be a better situation since my ex cheated alot. I don’t want him to feel like im trying to cheat on him with women so he agreed to a 3way dynamic. This woman has never been with a female nor in a 3way relationship. Tbh both of them are alcoholics and I have substance abuse (weed) problems and maybe us talking while sober needs to happen.