So I’ve been talking to this guy for a couple of months literally like 2months at most. Anywho, I feel I’m still getting to know him. Butttt there’s been to occasions where he showed a different side. A tempered upset side. Didn’t ever put hands on me but the verbal outrage felt like so. Bother via phone on through text…. Basically he got upset because I often didn’t pick up the phone calls or initiate a call. He said I don’t care about him and I am heartless and too introverted then called me b🤬.the other escalated through the phone this one was the worst. He wants to pay for a matching tatt and just get tattooed together in general. He mentioned before we played with the idea on what it would be. But I didn’t commit to it fully. So one day I asked him about his newest tatt and he brought up when we will be doing ours. I text back a shy face because I kind had given up on that because I feel it’s too soon. Also I just am not comfortable with people doing things for me I tend to feel like I owe them, always owe them loyalty commitment something, it’s annoying intrusive thought. Any who I ended up telling him I think we need more time get to know each other some more because it is something permanent and symbolic. This where everything took left. He got upset. I guess he felt rejected or played. He called enraged, saying “a tattoo does not equal marriage or commitment in stone…” “why was I so ashamed and making it a big deal like anyone would know. To which I said it just seems like a a step too far too fast. Further downhill that went🤦🏽‍♀️he then got even more upset and started yelling that I have issues and that I don’t Care about him or the connection or about people. That I’m too introverted, and he hates it he hates that I’m not open. Then he escalated to calling me a b🤬, and a bum and just a whole bunch of insults because he said I was being insensitive to him and his feelings. He hung up on me missy yelling then called back some more pissed off. He wanted me to show I care on his terms and he kept asking me to tell him something nice and remember the good times and to appreciate him for that. In between one of the first calls I texted him basically saying I don’t want to deal with him anymore. Which he then called and screamed to not cut him off, and that I don’t care about anyone if I am quick to cut off. That iam emotionless ( when he yelled and asked for my response all my answer where calm and simple which irritated him further more) and he started assuming that I don’t have friendships and have no backbone if couldn’t with stand the insults and yelling. He says real friends fight or argue often doesn’t make them not friends but the thing is he was in full attack mode like there was nothing I could say that wouldn’t be used against me. I apologized at the very beginning about the misunderstanding but that wasn’t enough he insisted and yelled he was on the phone in the street screaming like making a scene except I’m on the phone but in that he also kept yelling his hatred for women he only likes to fuck them because they aren’t good for anything else he called me all kinds of stupid. It was late I was in bed so the phone wasn’t in my ear but I stuck around to hear him out he had mentioned a hard day at work. Nonetheless it was a ridiculous outburst I’m older than him by a year but he really doesn’t agree with or understand emotional control/maturity. I told him he crossed the line and has gone over board and I don’t want that in my life. I’m good without the drama. Especially from men it was so weird he had a full out tantrum but then he was like “I have other girls because I know you would eventually cut me off”.. then he called me dirty and dumb for sleeping with him(only happen 2 times)he also randomly mentioned slapping the girl that he had upstairs with him and she stuck around even after his antics🙄like it’s a ducking badge🤦🏽‍♀️then he called me a narcissist amongst more names. Ugh. Then I said there’s more fish in the sea this unnecessary drama. He even mentioned me being a bum mom because I m always with my kids. We had spoken earlier stages how it it’s important for parents to have a life outside their kids which I have been struggling with since their dads death about 2+yrs back. Anywho I have been cocooned he was trying to nudge me to get back out and live. But he was still so mean it was disgusting distasteful disturbing it completely turned me off. Which he claims it is not a valid reason to be cut off. He says I’m too soft and sensitive no one is perfect. Then he escalated again saying he would punch me in the face if he knew where I lived it would be worse. Which is scary because we don’t live too far from each other and I shop sometimes on the street he lives on, and I just don’t want to deal with the drama and potential psycho. Idk if he is diagnosed, he says he doesn’t have anything but that rampage was hell for me. Took me back to a broken place from my last relationship with a controlling narcissist. Too much bickering. I thought only girls did that but he sounded like a true b🤬to me complaining and dragging out my flaws and things I shared in vulnerability with him . That is whack. We had a lot in common when we vives good it was smooth sailing in person he’s definitely more shy he doesn’t even raise his voice or says mean things usually the opposite actually very gentle and understanding but this side on the phone i met makes me not even want to ever take any chance of experiencing a disagreement in person. Literally felt like I would be a murder mystery. I don’t have close friends to talk to anymore I’ve grown distant with almost everyone even family, I found out the hard way about over sharing and trust. Which i barely have with anyone atm. So now I feel like I have to move far a get away.( I’ve been looking to love already) but this put like a fire on my ass I feel like I can be in danger. I don’t know what to do. I put my phone on airplane mode after I hung up on him while he was screaming because I didn’t want to hear it anymore. He hasn’t reached out but he works and I think has a life he has two kids with different bm’s doesn’t live with them but he’s supposedly fighting for custody anyways. Men are good liars. It could all be made up for all I know. I don’t like to judge but I feel like I misjudged the calm there was. Also I have a bit of an issue letting go once someone’s crossed the line I can be very cold. I’m not a fan or arguing I actually avoid it at all cost. I fear the escalation and danger because of previous trauma where it did get physical so felt like I was about to go down the same path. So now I feel rushed to get away and start new. Also I’ve been living where I grew up and feel I’ve out grown it and I don’t hang with anyone like I used to, I don’t have a healthy support system.So I wanted to get out in general I don’t feel I belong here yes on earth but not this city. My kids want to move too, I’m just short on change to up and move the way I’d like. But this situation makes me want to leave with my kids and only the clothes in my back. How do you cut someone off that doesn’t want to be cut off? How to deal or get out of sticky situations with a potential mentally disturbed man? Like how ?I can’t move fast enough?