Calling out all the mamas who have split custody of their child/children and have had to make a major move for work.

My ex and I share custody of my oldest, not legally in a court, we’ve always just figured things out amongst ourselves, usually amicably. My husband has a major job opportunity 10 hours from where we currently live. This opportunity is enough that we will financially be so set that I can stay home with our 4 children instead of both of us working just to pay bills. If it were just he and I and our 3 youngest we would barely even be worrying about this decision. My oldest is where the issue comes in. I’m torn on “is this the correct move for him?” “Can he handle being that far away when he’s used to being at dads 50/50?” “Do I want to take all of that time from his relationship with his dad?”

How have you made major decisions such as these and known they were the best decision for your whole family? There are many pros and cons being considered, all of which are less critical than my oldest sons well-being.