My husband is vanilla! HELP?!

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So my husband has a LOW sex drive at 25 years old. We have sex about once a month. I’m 21 weeks pregnant with #3 and literally got pregnant that ONE time in the month… My sex drive is high AF, and he’s not having it. Literally is not interested. The other day we had sex and we had to stop because he was not into it. It was just supposed to be a quickie before work. 
Anyways. Made him take a couples sex quiz and apparently he’s vanilla!? boring!??! We used to have some GREAT awesome sex after our first child 5 years ago and now it’s just boring, sometimes good and I’ll have a good orgasm but I want FUN. I’m into some weird stuff but not too much BDSM, and he’s just 💁‍♀️ 
Ugh! How do I make his sex drive higher?! I think that’s the issue currently. I am literally the horniest pregnant person ever and neeeeed to have sex more than once a month. 😭

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Is he just not into sex while you’re pregnant? Some people get really into their heads and just can’t do it. 
I know the farther along I got in my pregnancy the weirder my husband got about it. 
Personally- I wouldn’t use the term vanilla or boring. That can be hurtful. My husband told me I was “vanilla” once and it turned me off from being with him. Like, if I’m so boring in bed to you then why be with me? Maybe I’m dramatic (ok, I am dramatic) but still. I told him not to use those terms with me - plus no clue how he felt that way when we switch things up constantly. 
Anyways - you could try seeing if it’s related to the pregnancy. Or get his testosterone levels checked.

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Has he been to a doctor? Could be low testosterone.

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Can you imagine if a man posted this about a woman 🥴 yikes

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Look up Maca

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I remember reading an article a while ago that said men's testosterone levels drop after having a child. It could be that. As far as the drive, you can try giving him Maca Root. It's supposed to help boost libido. As far as the basic moves go, tell him you'd like to experiment and ask if there was anything he's wanted to try etc. You can even get one of those couples games where you play a card or roll dice to make a move.

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Is he medication? Sometimes that lowers your sex drive. I’m on lexapro and barley have one.

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Just sent you a message!

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Maybe he is taking care of himself and has nothing left for you?
I had that problem for the first few years of my relationship. We had AMAZING sex the first few months of our relationship. Then is suddenly dropped off like he had no drive.  He just had a better relationship with his hand than he did with me. And it stayed his preference most of our relationship. It’s REALLY hard for me. As I need him often. And he has no desire for me. Only way I can be a part of shit is when I give him a bj or handjob.

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Make him take a edible lol but seriously. I took an edible with my man and we were humpin all day long. It made us super horny. I’m not big on weed products. I literally just started using edibles in Dec. I say that to say I know there are different strains. Idk what we took but the rep at the dispensary mentioned something about a body high. I opted for that because the other alternative was a head high and that was associated with paranoia and what not but try it. You won’t be disappointed.

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Lmao that man is not into you at all

My husband is vanilla! HELP?!

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