my husbands pretty great, but sometimes, he does do the coming back home really late, and then waking me up to ask me if i’m mad. in which cases i’m usually just grumpy and worried bcs i don’t like how his friends get all carried away, frankly. So, i’m usually a little annoyed and he says sorry and then he’ll do it again later. The point of an apology is usually remorse and then fixing the thing that are causing the trouble so i mean, whats the point of apologizing if he’s going to go right back out and do it the next weekend.

Since I’ve tried talking to him about it and it’s been to no effect, the next time I went out with friends, I made a point to stay out that late too, which obviously ticked him off. the whole point was for him to understand how it feels to be the one worried, but now he’s so pissed he’s not talking to me 🤦‍♀️. He says he’s a man and I’m a woman which means he CAN stay out late and since I’m a woman I need to understand that things are never as safe for me unfortunately and therefore I CANT. (i was at a friends home 💀) He says I should apologize, and then pushed me away when I said I’m sorry it made you this angry bcs he doesn’t want a fake apology.

maybe i’m just venting but isnt hanging out two cities down, OUT ON THE STREETS so much worse than having a late night w friends at home???????? shouldnt he be understanding that if he was THIS worried for ME, man and woman fricking aside, how i feel? did i do wrong trying to prove a point?? i decorated a stupid valentine cookie w his name and super excitedly gave it to him when i came back and he pretty much tossed it aside.

am i the ***hole?