My sex drive is ruining my marriage.

good. lose him. a husband wanting to be selfish instead of thinking of his recovering wife isn't a husband. period.

He needs to be sat down by your doctor and explained why you cannot rush to have sec before the 6 week mark. Even after 6 weeks, it can still be raw and uncomfortable feeling. Intimacy is very important BUT it doesn’t have to be sex. So if he’s saying this is gonna break y’all, he has issues. You just birthed a baby. Don’t let him pressure you into doing ANYTHING. He’s in the wrong here. Most women don’t have a sex drive for a while after having a baby bc you completely lose your time and your body and it’s very hard in you. He needs to sit back and respect you and your space and be there when you’re ready.

Idk maybe my advice isn't solid cause I don't have kids. But. It's important to make your partner feel good regardless of what's been going on around you. I 1000% understand that your entire world was 360ed, and that you may not feel turned on enough for sex. But, I do think there are some steps you can take here. Personally from what I've read on here 5 weeks is too soon for sex. But my stepmom also once told me she had sex with my dad as soon as she possibly could after her babies. Here me out, try to make your husband feel wanted and valued. A lot of times sex is one of the only ways a man feels loved. Some men think sex is love which is ok. My husband reacts similar when i go on a no sex streak, he doesn't feel desirable when he is turned down and always thinks the worst(that he doesn't turn me on or that I don't want him etc). Maybe don't have sex but at least try to do something for him. By the sounds of it it's been longer than 5 weeks without sex? Maybe try giving him oral till he finishes? I purchased a little pocket pussy thing for my husband, he really likes it. When I want to give him oral and finish him fast I'll use that on him at the same time. It's a lit smaller than a flashlight it's super super tiny probably like 4 inches or so. If you have a vibrator, it should be ok that he has a toy too. Definitely get him a toy if you can! I was a little uncomfortable with it at first tbh , not gonna lie, but I realized that a toy can't replace me and that I have dildos and vibes. He has to feel wanted even tho you guys just had a baby. Babies are one of the biggest stress factors in a relationship, kids in general. Which is why it's so important to make your partner feel wanted(more than just sexually). Because once stress is involved it's super easy to lose track of what's important and get in a new cycle of being bitchy towards eachother. You guys are only human. If you're up to it, when baby is asleep Maybe make him a nice dinner or run him a bubble bath, soak him up real good down there with a handy or just something special for him in general. They gotta feel special too. Hope this helps some

My sex drive before and after having a baby wasnt there either but I still helped my husband get off every couple weeks. Once I stopped bleeding and the doctor okayed me to have sex (around 7 weeks postpartum) I decided to just do it for my husband and it was sooo good and after that my drive was back.

Sounds like it’s been 4 years of this, did I get that right?You do need to turn it around but since you are rehabilitating from the new baby, show him love and care other ways. For now make it about making him feel more loved in other ways. I know you may not be in the best mood, maybe in pain, maybe a touch of PPD but the little things count right now. Just tell him u love him more often, snuggle him, order him surprise take out or something. As for the sex once you are recovered, see about natural supplements to help increase ur drive. If u r breast feeding it’ll take some research but I’ve found maca root powder to do good for me in that area. U might have to push yourself other times just to make him happy. Fake it til u make it for a little. Don’t fake an orgasm but play excited for him when u start foreplay and it will become that for u soon after.