Principal touched my child

My boys ran home crying, can’t get their words together. I hear my G saying the principal grabbed the back of his Spider-Man costume- he had to scream “I can’t breathe” to the principal to let him go. My son J tells me it was before school, G ran around the court yard and when the early bell rang- they both ran to get changed before the actual bell rang out. On the way there, the principal grabbed G by the neck and shirt hard.

The principal then told J to “get to fucking class now!” They’re 12 and 11 years old.

The principal held G at the office for 2 hours. Didn’t let him get his glasses he has a +6.50 prescription and goes severely crossed eyed + migraines.

Nobody called me. Not one person in the office let me know what happened.

I call the principal- he’s unable to speak or tell me clear details. He said he “did not hook line G” “I just wanted to feel his fabric.” I asked about the choking and he ignored me. I mention the pictures and red marks plus the nail scrape I have. Because you can noticeably see the marks on Gs neck and shoulders.

I call the district. They knew about the incident but failed to notify me. They questioned several students. All of which saw the principal grab my son by the neck.

The kids bring up the surveillance cameras. The district office was hesitant and told me I can file a request to view alone with the police. So I did. In the video the principal and my son are walking calmly side by side- the principal just randomly reached over and grabs my sons neck from behind 🥺☹️. He was being a goof, I know. He should not have worn the costume- but a dress code violation before school was in attendance, not causing any disturbance or harm should not have gone this far.

G let’s us all know this wasn’t the touching incident where the principal choked him. He forgot and didn’t realize there was another time other than the more gentle grabbing we saw on camera.

I gave a list of 10 witness names. She only questioned 2. I mentioned a teacher who told me son G he can sit in her class for 2 hours with no glasses while growing cross eyed and being humiliated by his classmates - “as punishment” she was never questioned. Was him being choked not enough punishment?

I mentioned the principal telling my son to go the fuck to class, she never asked about this. We did find out the principal when to J’s class and watched him from the door for 30minutes, waiting for him to be released- and then stood over my son J and said “I’m here to let you know that you did not hear me tell you “fuck” “i said dang.” J said, “get to your danging class room, that doesn’t make sense. You said fuck.” The principal held J for 10 minutes and he almost missed his bus home from school.

Ive spoken to the principal, ive spoken to the district, I’ve filed a police report. I am just so overwhelmed and upset. My boys are scared to go to school. They can’t sleep. They miss school and are confused about all of this.

Update- I got an email from the district’s student aid today. She completely down played everything. She added in witness statements where there were none. For instance, she mentioned the time my son J was cussed at by the principal. “None of the 10 witness’s heard this, therefore it is not supported.” We told her multiple times that it was just the 2 of them.

She mentioned the schools call logs, “there was a call to your number at 2:34pm. But fails to mention that I called at 2:02pm and this was a returning call. 🥴 it’s so gross. I told her this about 5 times because she was refusing to write it down.

The choking. She said there was no choking caught on camera. We specifically told her, the principal grabbed my sons costume which pulled tight around his neck causing the choking. So in the video you do see him ring the fabric into his hand but then blocks the view of the camera with his back. She’s making it seem like the chocking was going to show him wrap both hands around my sons neck. I am beyond frustrated with her “findings”. The district is saying the case is now closed. We can request a time slot for the boys with a student counselor.