For the ladies that need to hear this

I have read a lot of sad posts on this app about relationships. All I have to say is KNOW YOUR WORTH!

I don't know if many of u know my story but my ex cheated on me years ago. We spoke about laid it all out and I forgave him. He swore he'd not do it again and it was his moment of madness. We had 1 child at this point. Our relationship flourished, we went to couple's therapy and I was honestly so content and he was my peace. We went on to have 3 more children and we had no problems at all. I trusted him fully. He walked out on me without a WORD, to be with the other woman he had cheated on me with all those years ago. I didn't even know they were still in contact. He had a whole other family, kids and all. All unbeknownst to me. He left me completely shattered and I didn't understand any of it. I still don't despite months of therapy. And I'll never understand because he will never be man enough to give me an explanation. I had no idea. Not an inkling. And I can not fathom how someone can be so conniving and deceitful.

I spent days and nights absolutely distraught and thought I was completely worthless and less of a female. I'd not sleep, eat or even function at times. He left me with 4 kids and we never heard from him. Not a peep, even up to now. He destroyed my whole outlook on life, love, relationships and men in general. He stole my life and he caused so much destruction and devastation to our kids.

But I FINALLY forgive him. Not for him but for ME. I forgive his idiotic behaviour. I forgive his disinterest in our children. I forgive his disappearance. But for ME not for HIM.

For those who think their man will change, some men do, but very VERY few. For a cheater it is a lot harder to change than it is to continue the way they are because most don't want the headache of having to prove their new-found honesty and loyalty. There is no excuse for cheating. None whatsoever. And don't ever let a man give you excuses or blame u. THERE IS NO EXCUSE! A decent human being with morals and values would leave the person they are with if they felt they no longer loved them. Decent human beings don't cheat, don't betray, don't destroy lives for their own benefit and excitement.

I am raising kings and queens who need to know their worth but they'll only know that by knowing their mom knows her worth.

If you have a son remember that is a KING that u have. He will be someone's husband. He should respect women. He should be the man you'd want to be with.

If you have a daughter that is a QUEEN u are raising. She will be someone's wife. She should know her worth and how a real man should be treating her, the way you'd want to be treated.

Know your worth and find a REAL man who will treat you like you're supposed to be treated. If you have even a second of doubt about the man u are with that is the universe telling u that isn't the right person for u, and it will keep telling u until u acknowledge it for yourself. But why hurt yourself like that?

Love is PEACE. Love is LOYALTY. Love is RESPECT. Don't mistake lust for love. U need to find ur person. Not everyone is able to find theirs and that's OK too. So long as you are truly at peace in this life what more could you want? Your happiness, success, worth and being DOES NOT COME FROM A MAN NOR SHOULD YOU NEED IT TO.

Nobody is beneath anyone else and DON'T EVER let anyone treat u as such!

Know your worth ladies, KNOW YOUR WORTH! And raise those babies to know their worth!

I AM ENOUGH AS I AM, AND SO ARE U!

MY WORTH IS NOT FOUND IN A MAN AND NOR IS YOURS!

Have a bless'ed day ladies 🙏🏼🙌