Do you feel like you need to be together for a certain amount of time prior to marriage, or when you know, you know?

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Comments and personal experience are welcome!

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I think you need to be together at least a year or two so you can really see what that person is really like.

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I was engaged after 6 months and married 9 months later. Just about to celebrate 12 years of marriage and just had our first child together. For us we just knew we were meant to be together.

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I wouldn't jump the gun to marriage because the person can change down the road and become abusive and that isn't somewhere I would want to be me and my hubby were together 4 years before marriage

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I am a big proponent in "when you know, you know"
However....
It is important to spend time really getting to know the person before getting married. There are many a love story that involves 2 people who are "perfect" for each other but due to a set of extenuating circumstances being present...it won't work long term. 
So, be in love...make the commitnent... get engaged early if you want, but WAIT to actually do it.

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I told my brother in law that anyone can be on their best behavior for a year. It’s just not enough time. He proposed before that year was up, they got married, and he’s pretty depressed and even had suicidal thoughts because once they got married she became a different person almost because she didn’t have to put on a mask anymore. It’s only been about 3 years that they’ve been married and it’s not good.
Not everyone is like that, of course, but I think you have to see someone at their worst to know what you’re actually dealing with before you make that decision. To see how they will react when life gets hard, because it will. 
I have 4 specific relationship in my family that come to mind where they knew each other less than a year before getting engaged or even married. 2 of them are divorced, one is my suicidal BIL, and the other is doing really well, but took a LOT of work and therapy over the last 5-6 years to become a healthy marriage. And extra 6 months to a year isn’t a long time when it comes to the rest of your life and the rewards/consequences of such a huge decision.

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It’s a mixture of both but personally due to exes I’m glad me & my partner have gotten to truly know each other inside & out & have seen all sides to one another in all kinds of situations & can feel confident in marrying one another. He’s someone I’m sure I could do life with, I probably wouldn’t have fully known that until over a year in.

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I think there should be at least a year together and some time living together so you can judge what they are really like. I know a few people that got married after like 4  months i think is the earliest  😳 that just seems way too fast for me

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Engaged after 5 months and married 6 months after that. Pregnant with our first child. We both had the same goals and visions for what we wanted for our lives and knew very early on we loved one another. There’s no formula and I think the more you are similar in your beliefs and desires for family and marriage, the sooner you know. Best decision I ever made

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When you think of how many years married you’ll spend with someone, I think putting in a couple years first with them before even considering marriage is a good idea 
You’re gonna spend 50+ years with this person hypothetically so I don’t think rushing into marriage makes any sense at all

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Let’s start here in 2019!
👨‍👩‍👧We got together on October 25th, 2019 the day I also got my bonus baby(20 months) Mommy’s princess🙏
👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨Conceived my first child, our first together as he has a daughter, 3 days after we started dating. First time we uh, ya know.. lol.
💍🤰He proposed on New Years Day 2020, I said yes of course, also 3 months pregnant with his baby.😬
🤱Babygirl was born July 12th, 2020
We are an extremely happy family. Oh. And 7 weeks with our final(my 2nd/his 3rd) baby due Sept/Oct 2022
🤞Decided to wait on marriage because I want actual wedding photos lol
Im 22 and he’s 26, young and crazy. I know lol We’ve been wingin it from the start🤪🤞

Do you feel like you need to be together for a certain amount of time prior to marriage, or when you know, you know?

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