is it weird that he hasn’t met my parents?

so i (19) have been officially dating my boyfriend (22) for 3 months now. we’ve been talking for about 4-5 months and have know each other for 2 years. I have met his parents and brother and go over to his place all the time to hangout, but he has never met my parents nor been to my house.

i am extremely picky with who i bring into my house/introduce to my family. on top of that my parents are portuguese and are extremely strict, scary, filterless and overall just a lot to deal with when these sorts of things happen. my entire family is super close and is super judgemental when it comes to meeting people. it’s normal for cousins/family members to not introduce a significant other to the family for 2+ years. and it’s pretty normal to not introduce a significant other to immediate family for months.

my boyfriend expressed to me last night that it’s weird he hasn’t met my parents and that other people would think it’s weird too since we’ve been dating for a while now. i on the other hand don’t think it’s that weird and that i have my reasons as to why i’ve taken this long to introduce them. he’s meeting them later this month but i feel like he shouldn’t lowkey rush me to introduce them.

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ar

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my boyfriend and i are the same ages as you guys and have been dating for six months on the 28th, and he still hasn’t met my parents. like you i’m choosy about who i let meet my family (we dated for three months before i even told my parents i was dating my boyfriend) because that’s a huge step for me and i need to know we’re 100% in it long term before he meets my family (mainly my dad lol),if he’s questioning why he hasn’t met your family yet, just be transparent and communicate. let him know it’s nothing again him and it has more to do with being respectful to your family.

Ka

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I mean, they're your parents & you understand them better than he does. Of course you shouldn't let him rush you. If the standard is two years, so be it.I had a time in my life I didn't introduce people to my family ever (the standard was supposed to be one year). Now I really don't even care as much, as long as I think everyone will get along.

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I met my SO when we were 21 and 22. I didn't introduce him to my family for 5 months. I think what your bf needs to realize is that not everyones family dynamic is the same, and not everyone's idea of the right time to introduce your new person to the fam is different for everyone.