NO FILTER issues...

My dad is a wonderful father, stayed at home with us as kids, always took wonderful care of us. Very sensitive and funny man. However one “bad trait” he’s always had is that he says WHATEVER comes to mind, he has ZERO filter or awareness about other people’s feelings with his words. He will say something like “Dang you’ve gained a lot of weight!” or “what’s wrong with your face! You look tired and pale and you have pimples”. And he DOES NOT mean it maliciously, he just says whatever the fuck he is immediately thinking 🤣

So most of the time. It’s not an issue. We all just laugh it off or roll our eyes at him.

Well, now a sensitive situation has arrived. My sister just had her baby and he was almost 3 months early. So he is in the NICU (but is doing very well!) My dad has not been sensitive about it at all. So far he has said...

“Well what did you do wrong to make him come early? Had to have done something”

“Hopefully he has all of his organs and is normal”

“Do you think he will be mentally normal? Or you know... the R word...?”

“Why is his skin all weird and red?”

I have taken him to the side and told him these things are extremely inappropriate and mean and he is just STUNNED by this. He was like “omg what do you mean? I’m not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings, I’m just worried and hope everything is okay!”

Like he truly does not get it. I honestly don’t know how much else I can explain it to him. Does anyone else know someone like this? HOW ON EARTH DO YOU DEAL WITH IT? Normally it’s okay but omg. Not now.