I've been married for 6 years, and been a stay at home mom for 3 of them. When I worked I would primarily save my paycheck for when we had large expenses. Currently I can't help with saving very much, since my husband has access to my bank account, and I don't have access to his. He says he's been trying to fix this for over 2 years. We recently decided there's quite a lack of trust about money in our relationship, and if we want to move forward in life (buying a home, moving, etc) we need to be able to communicate and save together. There hasn't been much action on this from his end, since he told me there were $30 left in his bank until he got paid last week. Since he got paid he's gone to Sam's club twice. Last night I decided to kickstart the communication we had talked about, and told him I needed to buy some baby supplies (that I've put off buying for a month and really need) but that I'd get the bare minimum possible so we aren't set back on our saving too much. His response was to grumble about how everything is so expensive and saving is so hard if I keep buying things, and that if I get to buy stuff he wants to as well! I said "you can buy whatever you want, but I need these bottles". This morning I've found on our Xbox that he bought a deluxe game for $50 last night without telling me. Half of me says I should've known because I said he should get what he wants, but the other half wants to throw in the towel because he conflates bottles to video games, and then implies I'm the reason we have no money. I feel like I tried to he honest and help him trust me, only to have him break my trust again. But if I give up it'll be my fault, again. I guess this is just me venting about feeling stuck, sorry for the long post.