Am I being ridiculous?

So my husband and I are going to start trying for baby number #2. We’re hoping for a girl because our first was a boy. BUT I’m starting to feel weird about it all. I just got really frustrated with the first because his whole family CONSTANTLY talked about how he looks just like my husband I mean everything eyes, lips, ears, nose, etc. then everything the baby did was of course “what my husband did as a baby” like sleeping with his mouth open, falling asleep in the car, etc. I was barely a week PP dealing with hearing it all and it continued on forever. I’m not sure why it’s so aggravating it’s just because i felt like I went through everything and the pregnancy/birth was so painful. Then just to constantly hear all that. They wanted to just take my newborn from me at anytime. Try to tell me when his diaper was full. Like hellll no. I just don’t want that happening with the first. Then if we have a girl I feel like it’s still going to be all about my husband like “she’s such a daddy’s girl” “she just adores her daddy” “she looks like your sister” blah blah blah. I get up with our boy now and am the majority who does it all with him. But if my husband started doing it all with the girl just because it’s a girl I’ll be pissed. That’s not how it should be. That’s taking daddy’s girl to the extreme and not fair to the boy. But also, it’ll be my last baby and I don’t want that bonding ripped from me because she’s a girl or once again it be all about my husband. Sounds selfish, but if you’re a mom I bet you somewhat understand.

Unless, am I being crazy and dramatic?