How do you handle people asking when you are having kids?

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I’m 25, and I thought I was still young but apparently I’m not. I keep getting told that I need to have kids soon because it won’t be easy once I hit 30 and by then I’ll be too old to want them. I got married in 2020 and really wasn’t even thinking about kids yet except for the fact that I don’t want them lol. I’m terrified of being pregnant, like genuinely terrified. I have a fear of throwing up and I’m scared of the pain. I take pregnancy tests even if I’m just two days late. I do eventually want at least one some day… But how do I deal with constantly being asked about it without coming across like a jerk?

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I used to say whenever it happens.

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You could gross them out and I’m sure they’ll stop asking. You could say “I don’t know, we’ve been going raw for years and haven’t had luck”

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It’s very annoying bc some ppl are not ready, don’t want them at all, and some physically cannot. It’s very hard to hear. I wish ppl would mind their business.  I first got pregnant at 30, a year after I was married.  My mom started with me at 24 (while I was single/living alone) and she’d say “you know you don’t need a man to get pregnant”. So I said “if you pay for all dr visits and day care then I will”. She stopped after a few times. Ppl just don’t get it until you say something direct back.

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I'd just say "When we are ready".

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Depended on how many times they had asked, most people I would say we “didn’t have kids yet” implying that someday we would, other people who were obnoxious I’d remind them that you can’t always have babies when you want to, which really got them to shut up quick

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you're not too old. my sister is 31 and conceived her first month trying and is 19 weeks pregnant. i'd just tell them that's none of their business and you'll have a child when YOU feel ready to have one.

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“When it happens you will be the first to know” usually shuts them up. People need to mind their own uterus

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I’m 25 and no way am I ready for a child. I’m waiting for my 30’s. And plus I haven’t found the right man. I don’t want to get pregnant by a guy I’ve only been dating a year. I also want to get married first.
Plus I am not 100% sure if I want kids. My brother didn’t start having kids until he was 30 years old, he was glad he waited. Unfortunately life can be unexpected and things can happen. He will never watch them grow old because cancer took his life. But before he had cancer, he still had a lot of energy to run around with his kids.
He probably wished he had kids sooner so he could’ve watch them grow  a bit older. But you don’t know when you’re going to die though.

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“Whenever we get around to it 🙄🙄🙄”

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NEVER EVER fall into the pressure of having a baby.  Having kids is an enormous responsibility.  I have four kids of my own that I love with all my heart but just know that your hopes and dreams have to be on hold for a while.  Your babies become a priority and you will always think about them before you do anything for your self. Don’t let pressure determine what you do.  Plus that’s between you and your partner and unless both of y’all are ready don’t take that step. Enjoy each other company before taking that step. Good luck.

How do you handle people asking when you are having kids?

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