My husband and I have been considering having at least one more child before I'm 35 and I' 29 right no. I've had two children back-to-back that were unfortunately preemies and I'm not entirely sure what to do because there was a lot of complications with my second child. We almost didn't I have a chance to really have my second child almost able to be able to come home because he almost didn't make it.I just really badly want another child and I understand that there's implications or consequences or medical things that could definitely go wrong. Has anyone ever had a preemie or two preemies and had a normal birth after that? I want to make a note that when I had my son following my daughter I literally had them back to back so I think that's where a lot of my complications came from.My daughter was born at 31 weeks almost 32 weeks gestation and the only reason she had to have emergency C-section performed on me for her safety was because my amniotic sac had ruptured somehow because my membranes failed and to add to it I was not an active labor but but on bed rest and then following that she had the umbilical cord around her neck so she was born basically at 31 weeks gestation. Then there's my son who unfortunately I don't regret my son obviously but eight months after my daughter had been home I found out I was pregnant with my son and we weren't expecting it to be so soon. We know what causes pregnancy and so this was absolutely terrifying.We were afraid of what could happen to my son.

Actually he spent 84 days in the NICU and had to be put on a ventilator and a CPAP and he had to have all kinds of procedures done but he's healthy and he's fine now and so is my daughter. Now my daughter's completely caught up and graduated from her Milestone issues and my son should be graduating from it soon. They're mainly just working on their speech now but the reason I guess that I'm frustrated I always wanted to have more than one child. I would prefer to have at least three but I'm struggling because I didn't know anything about my medical history for my past because my family was really messed up that I came from so I didn't know that I was at high risk for having premature children by any means and I don't know the reason or what even really caused it because the doctors really didn't tell me anything. So at the end of the day I just know that my husband I both want another child really bad but is it really worth the risk? My son had a three blood transfusions and I had to have two and I didn't have those complications with my daughter at all. My son was like the one that I had the most problems with because he was conceived literally eight months after my daughter I've been born so it was a pretty serious situation and I was put under and he had to be resuscitated there's just a lot of things that went wrong but it's been 2 years almost exactly. Actually my son's birthday will be here in just a few days and I just can't get rid of that empty feeling of I would really like to have another child and I kind of feel frustrated that this is happened because I was told that I looked great and there was nothing wrong with me and I had seen two doctors before I got pregnant and they told me that I was fine and they couldn't uderstand why I couldn't get pregnant and why I was having infertility problems. Like a week or two later I moved and I was pregnant with my daughter and that was in 2019 so I'm frustrated because I was told nothing was wrong with me.I was given nothing about my family medical history and then all the sudden I end up having a 31 week gestation baby and then a 28 week gestation baby with a placental abruption that they misdiagnosed as a placenta previa which is what I had with my daughte It was the umbilical cord around my daughter's neck that caused her to have to be an emergency C-section so I'm like frustrated because I have one kid in the NICU for 42 days with like not as many complications which was hard enough and then turn around and my son 84 days in the NICU and go through all these crazy stages just to be able to come home and it's just hard though because I know that. I know probably part of it was because they were so close together and I still feel a lot of mixed feelings about it but I have a little bit of time left. I'm frustrated as my husband wants to get fixed before he's forty and you know we talked about him being the one to get fixed because it would be easier and cheaper and he agreed that it would be an easier procedure but he also has another child that is my step daughter that comes and lives with us. This is like very new that she's been legally allowed to come live with us every other weekend and every other week in the summer. Technically right now we're dealing with three kids already but he wants four and I want three of my own and so we're just kind of on the fence about really what to do. We have good insurance and stuff but it's really the housing that's a concern as well because we're trying to figure out a way to actually buy a house instead of renting right now. We barely have enough room for the three kids that we have in this house and it's mostly the kids we made together but it's just like what do we do? We got family that you know really doesn't want us to have any more kids on one hand and then then then the other they're joking around and encouraging pregnancy so it's confusing. Has anyone had a two preemies and then they had a normal pregnancy afterwards? I guess

I'm trying to ask and I know this is like really long and I'm sorry but that's what I want to know what like your experiences are or have been.