Am I the A sshole for not telling my dad/step mom I was in labor?

Went into labor Saturday morning, I have my husband come home from work, Dropped our oldest off at The in laws, Labor at home for a few minutes, Then went to the Hospital. I was going for an unmedicated birth so my husband was spending his time helping me cope instead of being on this phone.

A little back story: my phone is broken and they knew that and the new one doesn't come until Wednesday.

We announced the news to them in a text message with a picture of our son Within 20 minutes of him being born. (Obviously still in the delivery room, going through the after birth process) I had the terrible shakes when he was born to the point where I couldn't hold him safely. Both of them said they wanted nothing to do with me and that I robbed them of the experience. They also said I didn't deserve a congratulations. My stepmother I said she doesn't want me to contact her anymore. They didn't even know or ask about the Labor or birth. That night I sent a text to them both saying that I understand they wanted it to go a certain way, And when they're ready I'd love to talk to them about the birth of their grandson. My dad finally replied stating how upset he was and Explained how everything was during labor and delivery. He's now mad at my inlaws for not telling him. They had done away to know who we had told since we weren't on our phones in the 1st place and we also asked my inlaws not to tell anyone. This is because I didn't want people trying to get in touch with Petrov me while trying to go through unmedicated labor.