Orgasms...

So I have never been able to orgasm through vaginal sex alone I always have to have clitoral stimulation. Its a mental thing I cant get past the urge to pee feeling to allow myself to let go 😭 Ive tried everything to make my self let go and just makes me clench the muscles.

We have been together 10 years and I really enjoy the sex so its def not that...

Any other tips to help let go or something else or position to try to keep me from being so tense