Guys! Could you weigh in here?? My mind is SO OVER over-analyzing this one, and it just HURTS. One of my dearest friends and I started to drift apart 6 months ago when I began to realize I should create boundaries in our friendship (and not pursue her and her well-known flakiness at the expense of my mental health). Ironically, she’s a therapist, and is incredible when you’re actually hanging out, but then weeks or months will go by where she won’t respond to texts or just constantly backs out of plans. She’ll come back around every so often with a massive apology, usually an explanation pointing to her depression, self flagellation because of the bad friend she’s been to vanish, and finally, an emotional display of how you mean the world to her. This has been the pattern for over 5 years, and we’ve had numerous conversations about how painful it is. But I love her so much that to my husband, I referred to the extra resilience I needed as the “Emily Tax” and accepted the toll it took on me (until I didn’t).

AAAAALLLL that too say, we last saw each other four months ago, literally the day before we conceived. She knew we were trying, and was so supportive and excited. She made a half-hearted effort to text me on my birthday 6 weeks ago, stating how she loved me wanted to take me out, but never responded to my availability. And due to the shiny, new boundaries, I left that one in her court, where it still is. But finally, as I was nearing 4 months of her having no idea of this massive life change, I didn’t want to hurt her by her discovering the pregnancy some other way. I thought weeks of back and forth would go by before she would finally agree to meet with me, so I sent her a text, saying how I wanted to tell her in person, but didn’t want another month to go by without her knowing. That, and the ultrasound photo. We’re now almost four days later, and she has yet to respond. It’s crazy-making that even this can’t warrant a response from her. I’m so hurt and so angry that it’s come to this. TRULY, I didn’t even want to share the news, but did it thinking only of her feelings. Now I feel completely exposed and vulnerable, and right now have zero desire to talk to her again. Would you give her another chance if she reached out finally with some sort of response? Or would you make peace with the fact that this person is most likely not your friend anymore and LET HER GO?? Advice, mamas!! 💔🙏🏻