Husband is blaming me

My husband and i are not working because he is verbally abusive aside for our small issues. He goes from 0-100 quickly and gets verbally abusive. Our lease ended and i moved in with my mother. I told him im not signing another lease until he gets anger management and we do couples counseling. He agree to do that but he says he just cant believe i am willing to separate our family and take our daughter away from him. I told him we are headed for divorce anyway because of his ways. So why he is surprised now that i am not willing to move with him and waste money and be verbally abused every week. I just can’t believe he turned this into my problem instead of doing the right thing. We’ve literally been talking for 6 hrs and all of it is blaming me for this result at the end.