So my husbands coworker has custody of his young son (5), and has asked us to watch him on my husbands days off in the past while he works. We agreed to watch him to help him out, as apparently the mom is unstable. So- the child, let’s call him Max- came over and was just wild- running around chasing my older two (8 & 11) and pulling on the 8 year olds clothes which would drag her down to the floor and he would jump on top of her to try to pin her down. He was also very rude to our 2 year old, taking all of her toys and not leaving her with any. He kept calling me mom and trying to drink and eat from my cup/plate (COVID high peak times). Idk it was a hassle and really wore us out- especially me because I’m pregnant. Anyway, the dad asked for help the following two weeks, and we would watch him once a week because we knew he needed some help. The dad never offered to pay us, or reimburse us for food or buying his child something (these were like 7 hr baby sitting sessions)- so my husband eventually told him that “we can’t make this a weekly occurrence, the children are having a hard time getting along and my wife has been feeling ill with the pregnancy..” ALL TRUE. So the dad said no problem he can find other arrangements & there were no hard feelings. Fast forward like 3 months -> my husband was like “hey babe, you didn’t have any plans tomorrow right? I told him we could watch Max- I’m terrified but he said he needed help badly.” I wasn’t mad at first, but I did have to mentally prepare myself. Later on the dad started calling my husband and was like “hey also, I need you to pick him up at this place and at this time. If not it’s cool” Basically wanted us to pick him up from school about 30 miles away from our home, right before our children were about to be out of school. That would mean pick up Max OR our kids. My husband said no obviously, and reminded him that we also need to get our kids. Now the dad is not responding to us- he’s ignoring my husband and we have no clue if this child is just going to end up at our doorstep. Anyways, I’m irritated, my husbands irritated, my kids are irritated. Would you be too? I’m about to tell him we have a strict no baby sitting rule because that’s ridiculous. We tried to help, but we’re not about to be used.

UPDATE: the dad called my husband about 30 minutes before it was time to get the kids from school saying that he brought Max to work and asked my husband to pick him up there. It’s right around the corner and my husband agreed. Girls, that child exhausts me. It was a bunch of yelling, throwing stuff and throwing temper tantrums because the toddler didn’t want to share specific toys (everything but her stuffed toy dog and ball was free game for him to pay with). It was hectic! Anyway, 9:30pm hits and my husband finally gets a call that the dad is on the way. Once he gets here my husband walks them outside- Max is screaming that he wants to stay with us. He gets in the car and the dad tells my husband “yeah hey sorry I’m late. I was enjoying a beer at the restaurant before I came.” My husband was like “yeah man, we aren’t going to be able to do this again.” Pretty sure the guy thinks he’s kidding. When my husband came back inside to tell me about it I was soooo mad. Idk if it’s the pregnancy hormones but man- livid! Anyway, that’s the LAST time we’re helping out and husband agrees!!