Where did he get the audacity?

My husband and i are going to start therapy soon. At first he refused to go and is making me point out our issues for the millionth time. I had told him how his behavior is in appropriate and hurtful to me because i saw some comments to a girl I personally know on instagram and another direct msg to someone ive worked with. This was a while ago but i was trying to make a point. The comments said someone like “this is the closent i will ever get to (certain country where the young lady is from)” in this photo she is in a swim suit in a sexy pose at the beach. Then the DM to another girl said “you are beautiful” in another language where the girl is from. My husband is American and went through the effort of looking up you are beautiful in that specific language. When i brought this argument up again he says, he wasnt happy with me and he doesnt feel i love him so why do i care what comments he leaves? He then apologized but proceeded to tell me how i can be a better wife so he doesnt have to do that. He told me he wants me to dress up and do my hair for him, cook for him. He ask me if i can make dinner for him today so he feels like he has a wife. This is one of his many complaints that i dont cook enough although i work full time and he makes me go half and half for literally everything including groceries but he wants me to took the groceries we both went half in. I told him he can call up the girls he left dm and comment to and tell them his needs. I told him to go to hell