Stealing this AITA (am I the a**hole) format straight from Reddit.

I’ll try to make this story as short and comprehensive as I can.

Starting with the backstory…

My parents divorced back in 2010 because my dad was a struggling, depressed alcoholic. Throughout the entire situation both of my parents were still present to support me. My dad started slowly recovering by 2012-2014 and then became sober (he still doesn’t drink a lot).

My parents had completely cut contact by this time in 2012 and my mother was remarried by 2018.

The house my mother still lives in with her new husband was originally bought and jointly owned by my mother and father.

During the years my dad spent in the dumps he gained government debts that he wasn’t able to pay for, so in 2018 the government put a lean on the house my mother was living in (which means they have the right to take equity out of the house once it’s sold) because my fathers name was still on the house.

They are currently STILL in a years long legal battle in which my mom is fighting to have my dad sign his name off the house, my father refuses because he would most likely lose what little he has in this life and be saddled with insurmountable debt.

Fast forward to today. My wedding is in about a month, both of my parents have helped me plan and pay for the wedding EQUALLY (obviously my mother knows nothing about my fathers contribution just as my father knows nothing of my mothers contribution).

Yesterday my mother was hosting a gathering and dress fitting for my bridesmaids and the topic arouse about my fathers attendance at the wedding.

I want him to walk me down the aisle as he is my dad I am the only daughter he has. As much as I love my step father, he has two other biological daughters to potentially walk down the aisle (and if I could have them both walk me down I would but that is not an option).

Anyhow, the topic arose and my mother became visibly upset. She later told my sister that she would not attend my wedding if my father was to be there.

I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I am Absolutely Not changing my decision about having my dad at my wedding. He has been there for me this entire time financially, emotionally, and every way a dad should be. My mother has it in her head that my dad is a deadbeat because she wasn’t there to witness any of the things my dad has done for me.

But now, I feel like I might be pushing it too far by wanting my dad to walk me down the aisle… I could walk alone but I would really prefer not to.

I just don’t know what to do.

Am I the asshole for forcing my mother to watch the man she hates/the man that’s trying to take her money walk me down the aisle?