Growing apart (Help)

Me and my boyfriend of two and a half years are starting to grow distant with each other.

I am almost 21 he is 20.

I work a 7-4 job, then leave my job to get dressed for the gym, go workout, come home shower, leave again to go to college, college class ends at 7:30 pm. Mon-Thursday.

I and mentally and physically exhausted. I have depression and anxiety really bad and he doesn’t really understand it but tries his best to help out.

We had a talk last night about how we both haven’t been the happiest but still want to make this relationship work because we love each other. I gave him some things he should work on and he gave me things I could do better. We also agreed that we need to go on dates at least once a week, we have one planned for this week. We both agreed to giving it one last shot and it broke me down last night.

We talked about how we really don’t have “fun” anymore and how it’s just the same weeks on repeat. Work.gym.school.repeat.

We have a friend group that hangs out every weekend and drinks but I feel like I’m on a different speed than they are. I’m wanting to relax and watch movies and they want to get drunk every weekend (including my bf) I always get tired and go home around 9-10 pm also bc I’m bored.

I have already grown out of the “partying” phase. I do not want to get drunk every weekend. I’m not fond of the taste of Alcohol bc I had a bad experience :))

The friend group always asks my bf why were are together if we are on different speeds, but my boyfriend just replies with “She’s not wild now but I can see our future and she’s going to the the one that will make a good wife one day. Raising kids etc.”

My boyfriend is an extrovert. Very much so. He is very outgoing and spontaneous. Me, I am mainly an introvert and wanna stay home or watch movies most of the time bc I am tired. I will hang out but I don’t like people enough to be around them a lot or I grow annoyed. I’m trying to fix that.

If anyone has any suggestions on how I can make myself more involved in the friend group or how me and my bf can fix things. He’s not the romantic type, he shows his affection for me in different ways.

I just don’t know what to do. I’m stressing hard about this. I love him and he loves me. I see him in my future, getting married, having kids, growing old together, but the spark and the fun died out. And he said the exact same thing. I just don’t know how to get it back.