i have a child who is turning one soon. me and his dad are not together and we are both happily married to new people. my child’s birthday party is this weekend and i invited him to it. we agreed we both do our own parties instead of working together and more than likely disagreeing on things. we also agreed that in turn, the other set of parents would be invited to the other’s party for him. i know to many turning one is “not a big deal” and my child “won’t even remember” but I will. since court (about 6 months ago) we’ve been doing really good at co parenting and communicating what was going on with our kid. so i seen no harm in how we agreed to do the parties. HOWEVER, my family is highly pissed he may make an appearance and says i should uninvite him because it will make them uncomfortable and nobody will be able to relax. i have already had a family member say they are not coming. -For context: we split nit long after i got pregnant, is was super toxic and it wasn’t an environment i could hold a healthy pregnancy in. he was manipulative and drug me through hell. so i understand some of their harsh feelings. BUT that’s over, we have to put our child first and we have since he was born.- i don’t see anything wrong with us co-parenting and him dropping by to see his child. i just do not feel supported. Am I wrong for telling them i’m not uninviting him?