Healthy relationships and sex

I’ve been with my partner for over a month now but my sex drive is much higher than his and sometimes his adderall messes his up. We haven’t had sex in three days and I made a joke about how long it’s been because I didn’t realize it had only been three days but now that I think about it, it’s dumb I’m upset and making jokes. I don’t have a lot of positive memories of sex because I’ve been in a lot of terrible relationships and I’m an assault victim. I think my high sex drive is really just trying to rewrite those memories. Any recommendations on things for us to do that are non sexual but still intimate or books I should read on developing a healthy relationship? I really love him and I don’t want him feeling inadequate because I’m putting too much pressure on sex.