AITA?

My bf and I have been together for 2 years in person. One year in long distance. We’re having trouble communicating lately.

1. ALL he talks about is his job. 24/7. He works in sales so he’ll tell me about every sale, with every customer, down to how much they paid, every little detail. He usually goes on for hours at a time. When I tell him I don’t want to talk about his job so much (I told him we can carve out time at the end of the day) he shuts me out. Says that I don’t care about his job.

2. Whenever I talk, he zones out. Doesn’t matter the topic, he zones out after 5 minutes. I got frustrated because I constantly have to repeat myself. He has ADHD so I understand, but he also refuses to get help for it. I passed him along resources from my friend who also has ADHD about how he can manage since he doesn’t want to take medicine, which I get. He said it was my fault he zones out because what I talk about is boring.

Today, he said he talked to one of his female friends (he just me this person a couple months ago) and basically she said I was “fucked up because I don’t respect his ADHD and because I don’t want to talk about his day with him”. He said that after talking to his friend, he realized I treat him terribly.