What Would You Do?

Question

Hey guys! I just want your opinions on this.
So I’m in a long distance relationship. We’ve only met once. So he’s like, overly nice I guess and I don’t know how to deal with it. When the weekend comes around he always asks if I have any plans and I always say no and ask him if he has any. He constantly says he just wants to talk to me for the whole weekend, watch movies etc and in my own mind I’m like ‘oh 😬’. He constantly wants to watch TV, like he’ll literally wake up in the morning, we’ll talk for about an hour or so and he’ll be like “Do you wanna watch TV” at such a time. Now, I’m not one for watching movies constantly, I get easily distracted and it’s just not a hobby of mine! He never asks to talk on the phone, it’s always Snapchat. I always have to sort of make things up just to get away from him sometimes and just to get away from the phone in general. I’ll pretend to go to the gym or go for a walk.. Even just an hour without him is bliss at times. If I leave him on the opened, he’ll text again. He’s 3 years younger than me, I usually never go for younger guys. It’s getting to the point where he’s kind of annoying me and grating on me. I think I told him once before that we should have a day to ourselves, do our own thing without speaking to each other. He took it badly though.. What would you do?

Answer

I'm in a LDR, and have been for 4 years. We live in 2 different countries, and I'm actually heading back to mine in a few days. I think it's normal to text occasionally throughout the day, or sometimes watch a movie together through screensharing. I try and call my fiance at least once a day, but that doesn't always happen. But there's a difference between maintaining contact and being affectionate despite the distance, and being needy and overly clingy. He sounds very codependent on you, and you sound like you need some space to breathe because he's suffocating you with his constant need to remain in contact with you.
Are either of you working or in school? Do you both not have a day to day routine where you're both able to occupy yourselves throughout the day so there isn't a need for him to constantly bother you all day? You said you'll make up reasons just to get away from him, like go to a gym or something, and you feel relief at the opportunity to have that little bit of quiet away from him. He's overwhelming you with how needy he is for your attention. You need to communicate with him that it's too much and very off putting.
The relationship isn't going to last if he can't respect your need for a bit of space.

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