It’s it hard?

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Does anyone know if it’s hard to raise a child without the father? I’m 18 and just found out I’m pregnant. Father will not be around no matter what, and I can’t put him on child support either. He’s 35 and I’m already in college and I don’t want this to ruin my life. I don’t have a job and I live with my mom and I don’t want to ruin my life. All opinions are welcome but please no disrespect or judgement.
I don’t want my family or people who care for me to be disappointed and I have a lot of things Going on right now. I don’t want this baby. My gut is telling me not to have it. Maybe everything is just fresh? Idk. This is my first pregnancy. I don’t want anything to do with this baby if the father isn’t going to be there nor help me. Which I know he won’t be. 
Maybe I should go in for an ultrasound and see how I feel then? Has anyone been in a similar situation and grown to love their child or has it really ruined their life?

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Yes it’s going to be hard. That doesn’t mean impossible. 
The truth is: You will need a job. You will need to pursue child support- I don’t know the situation but he’s responsible too. It will change your life. 
Are you parents supportive? I’d be upset if a 35 year old man was even near my 18 year old, let having a child together.

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This is a decision only you can make. You can hear stories but at the end of the day you know yourself best. Having children you planned to have in a loving marriage is hard - it’s going to be exponentially harder alone, to a young mother without the father present. That doesn’t mean if you want to have this baby that you shouldn’t or you can’t do it. You can do anything you out your mind to (cliche but true). That doesn’t take away from the fact that it’s hard. 
Anyways, do what you want to do. Not what the father of your child wants, not what your mother wants, or your bff or these random people on the app. There’s nothing wrong with choosing not to continue the pregnancy but it’s something YOU have to be okay with. You’re the one living with the choice so your opinion on the matter is the only one that counts. 
Whatever you choose, you’re strong & you will be okay. ❤️

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It is so so difficult to raise a child with two people, and nearly impossible with one. You’re really young, and you are allowed to choose yourself and your dreams. I would think on if you’re ready for a baby and pregnancy (esp. because it’s really rough on your body) and decide what you think of best for you personally. Good luck lovely, I wish you the best

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You're obviously not ready. This fully grown adult man took advantage of you. Don't tie yourself to this guy forever. It's ok to choose yourself and your dreams.

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If you don’t have a good support system it’s going to be super tough. With or without the father. If he won’t be around but you have all the support you need then it won’t be tough per se. 
If you do not want to be a mom at this time then seriously weigh your options and go from there. I know you have school to worry about and financial planning as well.

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Yes its hard, but some of the hardest things you get through are the most rewarding in the end. I got pregnant at 19, the father was there but we werent together. I thankfully have family support, but even if i didnt, i knew i could do it on my own. I had to find a better job, save up money get my own place, i dont do things that my old friends are doing. Im changing diapers, singing mickey mouse, and cleaning bottles, while others are our clubbing and acting like teens still. My sons a toddler now and its very difficult, but hes also the best part of my life now. Ive grown a lot and i love self growth. I cant wait to raise him into a young respectable loving man. You just have to weigh out your options and do whats best for you. It takes massive amount of emotional physical strength to raise a child on your own. Its a 24/7 every day job that you dont get breaks from really

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Had my son at 19. Sole custody I get no child support. I’ve gotten no help. Parents helped after a few years for a couple hours on Sundays. I am now engaged, but it was tough but when I say I loved every second and wouldn’t change anything for the world.
Please give yourself some time to sit on it. 
I have a 4.0 and am on the presidents list. Going for forensics. Just a bit of a later start. But I’m still getting it done and doing way better than I would have at 18

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Why can’t you file for child support?

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