I’m pregnant my sister miscarried

Long story alert!

My sister text me in nov last yr saying she’s got something to say, that she found out she was pregnant a couple weeks ago but has had it confirmed that morning she was having a miscarriage. (8 weeks gestation), they were totally gutted.

The following week, (4 days later) I did a pregnancy test and found out I was pregnant. I almost didn’t allow myself to be happy or excited because all I could imagine was how hurt they were going to be knowing they’d just lost their baby.

I waited until after my period was due to have been and gone, I was approx 5 weeks pregnant and decided to tell them as I didn’t want to be a false support network, I thought they deserved to know and decided it was best to tell them through text. The initial reaction was okay, not great, but expected and sweet.

Soon Christmas came around, my sister had told me she wasn’t going to tell our parents or family about her miscarriage, I told her if that’s what felt best then sure, but I did encourage her to get the support she needed as I thought I wasn’t the best person to support after she knew about my pregnancy.

We had a private scan at 8 weeks, I spoke to her a few days before and explained if the scan went well, we would tell family privately or through message NOT in front of them or around them, (mainly so no one would question me on why I wasn’t drinking/why I had gone off food or any other reason!).

She told me not to tell anyone, that I was stupid for paying £70 for a scan, that I should just wait until 12 weeks before telling anyone, the end. I explained nicely my reasons for wanting to tell family, eg because we were not going to see them for a while or because on my husbands side they were going to be so excited. She then within a couple of days told our parents she miscarried which she has since confirmed was because she didn’t want to hear anyone talking about my pregnancy.

No one at Christmas spoke about my pregnancy, no one made comments, everyone avoided the subject.

Now, months later - my sister is still absolutely furious with me, expects me to “take responsibility” for making their hurt worse, for being insensitive and ruining their Christmas. She wants me to say I’m sorry, but in my opinion I did everything I could have that was the best for us both, I have felt guilty for feeling entitled about being happy that I am pregnant.

Please help me with your opinions.