Should I be hurt that my husband didn’t even get me a birthday card?

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No card. No present. It was last week and it’s really bothering me. He wished me happy birthday and then we went out to dinner at a very casual place. It was a busy day in terms of work and other things going on but I feel like I should have at least gotten a card. Am I being silly? When I think about it, it hurts. Just that he couldn’t take like 5 minutes out of his day to drive by the store, pick up a card, and write a message even. It also didn’t have to be that day. Could have been the next day. It’s now been 5 days. Im just hurt.
EDIT: I did mention it to him that I’m hurt and he literally brushed it off like no big deal and told me it’s no reason to be upset. I feel even more hurt. And yes in the past he’s done a bit more effort than now.

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I’d be hurt 🤷🏻‍♀️

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If this is abnormal and hurtful to you then speak to him. 
I’m a firm believer in celebrating your life with the people you love. Having cake and your favorite meal, or whatever it is you enjoy. If that’s important to you let your partner know.

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My opinion might be a bit biased because I feel like when you're an adult, birthdays are just whatever and to never expect anything. So I guess it depends, does he usually do a card or gift? Because if not, I probably wouldn't be so bothered by it. Atleast you went out to eat and still celebrated.

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I mean-has this happened before? If this isn’t new I’d whatever it but if it’s uncharacteristic of him I’d be very suspicious 🤨

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I wouldn’t be upset but I don’t care about my birthday. As long as a little effort is made (saying hbd) then I’m good.  You’re allowed to feel how you want, just talk to him about it.

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My other half did the same he took me for a casual meal and no card or gift and yepp it hurt especially when I always put in so much effort for his celebrations but I guess I'm grateful we had some time together and even though it hurt I'd rather time together than a gift

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Did he used to gift you things before or is it new? If hes always been this way he prob won’t change. But i dated an ex like this and thats one of the reasons i broke up with him.

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If you're  hurt then tell him that  that's what you would've like also so he doesn't assume all is fine next time

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Everyone celebrates bdays differently I’ve learned. I’ve never gotten a card from my husband. Bdays in his family aren’t a big deal, in mine we always made it a bigger celebration. Kind of have to learn what each other considers a normal kind of bday celebration.
My husband even forgot my bday 1 year 😳 so my expectations for bday are way lower now lol he gets me presents now (sometimes not same day) so I think he’s learned from my disappointment years back what I consider a good bday to be! I think as long as he acknowledged your bday and did something, like went out to dinner you can’t be too mad but maybe talk to him and say you kind of wish he got you a card or gift or something 
But I def get the feeling of just wanting them to make you feel special, like the thought of it is all you probably want!
I used to remind my husband like a week before that my bday is coming up 🤣 just so I don’t feel super disappointed again but I think he def learned from that mistake.

Should I be hurt that my husband didn’t even get me a birthday card?

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