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Ask her what she understands by this.What is pretty? Who is pretty? Why would she think she isn’t pretty?And than explain to her how gorgeous she is and her sister too and we are all uniquely beautiful But I wouldn’t panick abt this
6 year old says she’s not pretty
She was hanging with my husband and she was saying something to him and he was preoccupied with something so wasn’t looking at her and she said “daddy, are you not listening to what I’m saying because I’m not pretty?”
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And her sister told me she has said she’s not pretty a few times before.
How do I address this with her? What should I say to her? How do I improve her confidence/self-esteem, while also instilling in her that external beauty isn’t as important as character and how she treats others/how she lives her life?
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How is the role model? Does her mom also keep telling, she herself doesn't look pretty? Usually kids copy moms who stand in front of mirror saying they look ugly. 🤷♀️Talk talk and talk and lead by example.
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Might be that. I have a friend, who I know long time, she also always talks about how her hair is not straight and nose is too big, and feet are too large and... She has like 100 problems to tell about, but there is nothing wrong with her. She has always talked like that, lately she does do it less than when we were teenagers, but at 30, she still is not confident or maybe she just likes to talk like that.
Her 4 year old is like a copy. Sad to see how the little girl has learned to talk herself down so much. ☹️
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I’m really good about this actually and I’ve always been conscious of how I speak about myself for this reason. I think it’s my MIL and FIL honestly. My MIL always talks about “grammas fat belly!” And my FIL shows my twins videos of “the prettiest twins in the world” 🤯😑 or they make comments when we have dinner with them to my girls like “you’re STILL hungry??? Are you a bottomless pit???”
I’ve told them over and over all of this is unacceptable. My husband has been so against limiting exposure to them. And now this.
Focus on what qualities besides beauty she has and then end it with how beauty is subjective and what you think of yourself that really matters. And of course tell her she is attractive just like the rest of people around you. I think it's important for people to hear how people admire how they act over how they look but everyone is attractive physically in their own way. That's what makes us unique :)
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