I just had my baby 3 months ago. I’m a first time mom. This might be long. Sorry.

So kind of from the beginning.

My mom has tried to overstep I guess I can say. Try to boss more than give advice with how she says things.

First it was saying that my baby needs to not be on my boob so much. He was only a month old at the time probably. I exclusively breastfeed. She said that I need a break and he shouldn’t be on me all day. I told her he’s cluster feeding and bringing up my milk supply which is good. He also doesn’t take any pacis so I’m his paci pretty much.

She and my dad would tell me over and over. Put milk on the paci, honey or soemthing on it so he takes it. But HE WILL NOT. He doesn’t like it. So I don’t care. Not a big deal I’m the paci I’m his momma.

Second thing a month ago they kept trying to give him syrup, butter, jam to just put in his lips. After I said no. My husband and I just want to wait to give him a try for when he’s interested in food and we wanna be the first to give him something. I wasn’t rude when I said no. But it got annoying they keep offering to put something on his mouth after I said no.

The most recent thing. We were at my moms and she had my son. She went to the couch and fell asleep with him in her arms. He was wide awake. I was at the dining room table. Not far but he wasn’t in my sight. My husband walked up to her and waited to see if she was actually sleeping and then took him from her. I told her not to fall asleep with him cause that’s extremely dangerous and no reason for it. Well she got all worked up crying saying she would never do anything to harm him and that she’s had 3 kids and completely aware he’s there. Blah blah blah. I told her I don’t care how many kids you’ve had. He’s not your baby and that’s not safe. And she just kept going on and on. Then my dad butts in saying that I’m strict. Then my younger sister butts in. And then my grandma saying that no one will watch him as good as I watch/take care of him. But like am I the bad guy? Cause I had no one but my husband on my side understanding my point of view. I feel like me telling her not to sleep with him shouldn’t be a problem. Then today my dad says to my husband that all my mom does it try to help and im just mean. Like????

I wanted them to maybe watch him for a wedding next month. Cause they’ve been begging pretty much. Saying my husband and I need our time together. But with all of this. I just don’t want to anymore. I’d rather take him with me. I feel like they don’t respect my husband and I.