Ladies help please😩

I’m not comfortable doing traditional sleep training that involves my baby crying without me or her daddy comforting her. No judgement to those who choose that, it’s just not for us.

Backstory: 9 month old breastfed baby who primarily sleeps in her crib and was given at least one breastmilk bottle a day from day two in the hospital. She did well with the bottles once a day until around 3.5months and since I’m back to work she still doesn’t drink much while I’m away whether bottle or sippy cup. Lately on the days I work she tends to wake a lot (3-4x) overnight to catch up. That was fine for a while because I work part time. Before I went back to work and on the days I didn’t work she’d sleep 6-8hr stretches overnight. That was until maybe 2-3months ago. Lately the wakings are more frequent, she won’t always go back down after nursing and it happens now regardless of my work schedule. It’s reached a point that I’m a total zombie, and as she ages I imagined it would get better, not worse. I need some tips and strategies to at least reduce the wakings. I never have minded and truthfully enjoy the overnight snuggles and feedings, but wish so badly that it were at least a bit less. I can’t function anymore this way. My husband tried getting up and rocking her last night and she calmed temporarily but then freaked out big time. I have started to resort to cosleeping part-way through the night but that only increases her feedings if she’s right next to me. I tried setting a short timer to allow to her cry for a few minutes and give her the chance to fall asleep on her own. That simply made her more hysterical and upset me. Does anyone have suggestions for me? I’m even willing to pay a professional but don’t want one that will tell me to let her cry. Our pediatrician was not helpful at all. I know at it’s biologically normal for her to wake but the hysteria, refusal to be rocked back to sleep without feeding and to be placed back in her crib after nursing, even on days that I haven’t worked and she’s nursed well all day….I don’t know how to handle this and wish there were a middle ground between CIO and doing nothing. This mama is so tired 😴