toxic friendships

My “bestfriend” has always been the flakey type. I chalked it up to her having 5 kids, and would get over each time she would bail out on me. I have 3 kids, so I get how hard it is to get out of the house. She literally flakes out every single time we’re supposed to hang out, and ghosts me afterwards. She won’t even let me know that she can’t make it… I helped her enroll into college, and gave the counselor a letter (I’m on the deans list + in my senior year) of recommendation bc she was late to enroll… signed her up for fasfa, and student loans… she didn’t even go. She took the fasfa money, and stopped going to classes the week after all of the money was released. All of these things make me sad, but again I understand that we are adults with kids..

Recently, we were supposed to go to lunch & she texted me that her bf was beating her up. So of course I was worried, offered to drive out there to grab her & the kids (she said he beat the kids & her that day). She then ghosted me & proceeded to post on Snapchat pictures of them out & about ☹️ it made me super sad that she would lie about getting beat up just to not hang out with me. I decided that I need to keep my distance now. As a DV survivor, it really triggered me & I wanted to save her that day. ☹️ my husband even got angry, and was about to help me get her & the kids.

I’m sad that I lost my bestfriend, but I also know that I have to stop communicating with her bc it’s just too much for me to handle.