Experiencing my first loss

Meme • #Bisexuwell 🏳️‍🌈 MILF. Resilient. Mama of 2. Pregnant with rainbow 🌈 baby due February 18th 2025. ❤️ Engaged 💍.

I kept seeing traces of pinkish white spots so at first I called telehealth (our phone in doctor/nurses) and they said if it’s not heavy bleeding not to worry. Sunday after work the bleeding was enough to make my underwear red so I went to the ER. After 16 hours, two ultrasounds, two doctors and a lot of tears. I was told I was supposed to be 13w2d and baby is only measuring 9w1d and there’s no heartbeat. I’m at a loss. This is the first time I’m experiencing something like this. I’m going back and forth in my mind on what ifs and why’s. My doctor said I can let it pass naturally or I can get the medication. I don’t know what to do. I feel like this is unreal. I have no words. I feel like this is a mistake and I feel guilty, then hurt. Then broken. I’m so confused. Ladies that this happened to. What did you pick? How long before it passed? Is it worth waiting? Did you see the embryo? I’m so hurt. Why? My baby is gone! I don’t know what to say or how to feel. I just want to be alone and cry. But I have a 2 year old that needs me. But all I could do is cry.