Am I over reacting?

My bd didn’t take me out for my bday last week even though he got me excited saying he planned something and made me pick between 2 restaurants. But when my bday came we didn’t do anything because money is tight. But today he’s out with his friend rn at the bar drinking. He didn’t have to take me out for my bday. He could’ve just offered to give me a break and watch kids or something in that nature since I’m a stay at home mom to a 7, 6, 1, and 3 month old.

This whole day he gave me the worst attitude for absolutely no reason, I didn’t do anything to him and when I try to ask him if I did something something or why he’s acting like that towards me he ignores the question and walked away. He even threw my phone into my hand. He’s gotten like that since his friend came to our house at 9am. And I got mad and yelled at him saying “idk why you’re tryna show out just cos your friend is here” And now he’s at the bar with that friend knowing damn well he has work in the morning. I’m just so fucking frustrated I feel like I’m always in the back burner.

And no I am not controlling. If it was me going to the bars or even going out without the kids at all he would be yelling and cussing me tf out making me not want to go. So that’s why I’m frustrated, I feel like a prisoner sometimes. The only time I’ve ever gotten to go out by myself was last Sept/oct to do my nails. And our last date night was a year ago so that’s why I was looking forward to us going out for my bday.. He never listens when I tell him how I feel.. can someone help me mentally push through because I’m going crazy