What do I do? PTSD from cheating..

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I have ptsd from my partner cheating… he hasn’t cheated since then, first & last (almost 4 years ago) but I still get dreams, sometimes think of it & get all the feelings back of when I first found out (heart drop, heavy breathing, etc..).. we are good together & I trust him. It’s just me. He doesn’t know I feel this, we spent 2 years talking through it & him gaining my trust again.. I know I need help, I know I need therapy but I can’t afford it. We can’t afford it. How can I get past this without creating extra expenses? He even wants to get into couples therapy ..

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Coming from someone who has C-PTSD, therapy is absolutely necessary in your situation. Even if you can only afford once every 3 weeks, PTSD only worsens if left untreated. I will also say, living with and having a very close relationship to the person who caused your trauma disorder is almost always a recipe for disaster. Without therapy, it almost certainly will not work out.

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Are you in the US and have Medicaid? Your mental health should be priority. He is willing and able to do therapy too. It’s worth the expense, he can pay too. He created this issue.

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Most churches, Catholic charities, etc. I don’t know what else is in your area, they should have free counseling, obviously you can’t get medication from them, if you do need it, but you may need to get that from your own primary or actual mental therapist. But you most certainly for talking, can go see any pastor or whatever other religious affiliate or Catholic charities etc. in your area. If you do need medication, your primary can prescribe it. ￼

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Honestly you might always feel this way but sometimes when it comes to PTSD about how people have treated you sometimes is not just what happened or how long it tastes to get over it I feel like also is like a conscious decision that you have to tell yourself that you were over it because sometimes I feel like that if I don’t push myself to do something I feel like I probably never will you know and it sucks because I’m going into the second year that I haven’t been with the extra really fucked me over and I still get some moments where I’m just like I just wanna disconnect my phone and just hide from the world sometimes but then I tell myself like I cannot live my life through the eyes of that heartbreak because if I do then I will never heal and I would never get over what happened and I would probably never move on but I also think about the future that I know that I want to have with someone as a wife and a mom and it just sucks because like the matter was someone else decided to duty whether you stayed with them or not you have to consciously let that go every single day and every single moment because if you don’t you will always kind of stay stuck in this frozen pattern of thoughts and feelings and things that could just make your heart race make your mind wander make you want to stress out make you just want to freak out every single moment of the day

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One thing that helped me and that i learned after heartbreak is to reprogram my mind to love myself. Love yourself so much that you ALWAYS make sure you are good. Make sure you keep yourself grounded financially and career wise, family and friend relationships are good and u invest in them, do things to love on yourself like working out, setting goals, keeping your appearance up. So that way regardless if a man is in your life or not youre good! Men are the icing not the cake. Dont over sacrifice or lose yourself in any relationship. Keep your self esteem and self worth so high and understand your value so … if he does mess up u and him both know better awaits u.  You got this.
     Also u can look into EAP services that may be offered at your or his jobs which offer a few free counceling sessions for employees. Also dont underestimate the power of books and videos! Go on youtube and pinterest and look up life after infidelity. Use the digital age to your advantage. There are books, youtube videos, pinterest articles, google, apps! Use them.

What do I do? PTSD from cheating..

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