Inconvenient spending together?

I'm looking for a few examples of the dynamic of your relationships please to see what is typical. Does your husband/ partner seek to spend time with you/ your children out of choice?

My husband and I have been together for 13 years, married for nearly 5. We have a 4 year old and 18 month old.

Trying to get him to spend time with us is mostly an uphill battle. When he does spend time with us, it is usually after I have asked him repeatedly to do so and he usually disappears away at the earliest opportunity to lay upstairs on the bed looking at his phone. Time together can be really fun and I enjoy his company - the children love spending time with him and playing, but it seems as though it feels like a massive inconvenience and chore for him. I usually get accused of nagging him to spend time with us and this week he told me I was annoying him keeping asking and to go away. Today was the first day of the Bank Holiday weekend and he disappeared off randomly for nearly 3 hours and was laying indoors under a blanket looking peeved when I appeared, whilst I play with the kids in the garden. Mothers Day, he came downstairs to start the day at 3pm (I don't expect much on Mother's Day at all really, but a change from the monotony of the week would have been nice!)

He does engage with us, its just often short lived before he reverts to the norm.

Is this just male behaviour or do your partners enjoy and try seek time with you and the kids?

Opinions greatly appreciated 🙂