I have a 15 year old son from a previous marriage. My husband has been in my son's life since he was 10 and they have a good relationship. However my husband has been fighting with me over the fact that he doesn't think my son does enough chores. My son does dishes, cleans his room when he can remember and does light picking up around the house. He has brain damage from daycare abuse when he was 3. I try to be light with him on chores because he will randomly forget exactly what he's doing and kind of wonder off in a daze. It's like his brain zaps out. It's why I dont really have to him take out the trash because you have to go down stairs down an ally and the last time I had him do that he wondered all the way to the corner store in a daze. We have to have a monitor on the door Incase he tries to wonder out the house. So getting chores done is already harder from him. Everything is harder for him. He's been having the same chores since he was 12 and my husband thinks it's time we bump it up. We go out a country home twice a month and he thinks he should start mowing their. Yeah that sounds incredibly dangerous and yes he has a doctor guys. There really isn't much we can do. I do have to remind him to do things like chores and homework and sometimes to brush his teeth. My husband wants to prepare him to be independent but realistically according to his doctor my son won't really ever be able to completely live alone. At most he would need a neighbor willing to check up every hour and even that's pushing it because a lot can happen in an hour. I get he wants my son to do more around the house and stuff but we gotta be realistic.

Edit: But Amber we don't always have time to monitor him and my husband doesn't want to. I'm not saying he can't do stuff. But mowing the lawn in completely unrealistic