Dry spell, I think ? 😅

Question

DO PPL IN LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS EXPERIENCE THIS?!
my boyfriend (24) & i (23) have been together for 2 years now. We have a very active sex life, butttttt as of recently it’s just been bad 🥲 He’s the only one that cums 😭 I don’t even get close to it anymore. & not to mention, i think his penis shrunk? I can get really wet down there & sometimes not feel him bc i’m too wet, but as of lately… it’s like he doesn’t even hit what i need him to hit anymore 😭 i think i’m faking my moans, we had sex a little bit ago & i think i could’ve just laid there the whole time. 
IS THIS NORMAL? Should i feel bad? Can y’all gimme some advice please 🙏🏾🙏🏾
UPDATE: No. our sex life isn’t boring. no. he isn’t bored. & no i’m not just expecting my orgasm to come on my own 🙄 i said our sex life was active. we use toys, we role play, blindfolds, handcuffs, whatever as long as we’re both comfortable. my problem is that he reaches his too fast now before i even get to mine. but it HASNT ALWAYS been like that. Up until last month he’d reach his first but still be able to keep going, now he can’t. & because he can’t, I don’t get mine. & as of recently it just feels like he doesn’t hit what i need him to hit.

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I would communicate with him. Try to make sure y’all are connecting mentally/emotionally outside of the bedroom. Going out on dates, being present with one another, spending just some one on one time. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and we had our dry spells but it was almost ALWAYS bc we were in routine. Once we got time away from the kid or just started loving each other intentionally everyday like giving massages or soaking our feet together while watching our favorite show, showing physical affection throughout the day like, so now when that time does come it’s AMAZING. Even better than before. We make sure to connect with each other at least every other day or 3/4 times out the week. So yeah, try just reconnecting and if that doesn’t work then maybe reevaluate the relationship.

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glad there was a post update. It’s probably just a “dry spell” maybe you’ve gotten too use to using toys. Not every woman has a vaginal orgasm, most women don’t even know the difference. if you guys haven’t always used toys but you just started using them heavily, then take a break. still do all the other things, but relax on the clitoris stimulation. & then when you or if you get a vaginal orgasm, you’ll see the difference. he cums fast just take that as a compliment lol, it may be annoying but that means you’re obviously not doing anything wrong despite the previous comment. men are easier to satisfy than we are. a lot of long term relationships go through this, but don’t let this be the reason y’all end up cheating on each other. it’ll be okay.

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Sounds like you expect to just lay there and be satisfied. Move around try new positions. Bad sex isn’t just his fault, it’s at least 50% your fault.

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Normal but just like the other commenter said you need to keep your communication open

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You just need to have a conversation with him about what you want out of your sex life together. Always keep an open conversation about sex and what you like/dislike.

Dry spell, I think ? 😅

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