Husband Isn’t Excited

Hey friends,

I’m currently 6 weeks pregnant with my second. I have a 14 month old who is absolutely amazing. My husband is completely in love with her, and he’s the best dad in the world. Seriously. He’s awesome.

However, he is clearly not excited about this new baby. I know he’s stressed about providing (even though I’m the primary breadwinner in our family🤷🏻‍♀️) and worried about how this will impact our careers (we both work in theatre arts), and we’ve talked about all of that. I’ve told him that his feelings are valid, and that he is allowed to feel however he is feeling. Truth be told- I’m also nervous about having a second.

BUT- sometime I wish that he would at least pretend to be excited for my sake. It’s very hard to feel like I’m going through this alone. I know that he will love this baby once he meets it, but that doesn’t make it any easier now. Any time I bring up names or plans, he just sort of shuts down.

Any advice? I know I should probably just give him time, but gosh- it would be so much easier to push through the anxiety and morning sickness of the first trimester if I at least felt like I wasn’t on my own. It’s hard for me to feel excited when he clearly isn’t.