Divorce

I’m new to this community and since I don’t have close friends or family to reach to I’m needing some input! Long story short… I’ve been married for 15 yrs and have a 13, 12 & 4 year old but my husband brought the topic of having another baby 2 yrs ago! last year he brought the subject up and it turned into a huge argument and threatened that if I didn’t want to have another baby he was not wanting to stay in the relationship. We discussed how long and ultimately HE decided how long which is not fair! He said in a year! So, the conversation came up again last week and now I’m feeling pressured and mad because I feel he is not validating my feelings or the dreams that I have! I have recently opened and online boutique and want to see what it turns into but another baby will definitely affect me working and wanting to do better for the kids I already have! I feel he is being selfish and seems like he wants to control me. His way of coming about it and threatening to separate and have my older kids suffer really makes me upset! I told him I do want to have another baby but not right now. I’m really not sure what to do!