Don’t want my sister at my baby shower

Please no hateful comments I already feel bad!

My sister is the type of person who makes everything about herself, she always has to be the centre of attention even if that means putting someone else down to make herself feel better.

Some comments she’s made are when I’ve had my hair done it looks yellow instead of blonde and that she would of done a better job and look better as a blonde.

That she is the skinner and prettier sister.

In photos she always makes me stand in front and she will hide behind me and after the photos she will make comments about how big I look compared to her.

I’m the younger sister but I was in a very serious relationship and found out I couldn’t have kids.

He was very abusive and we just wouldn’t work.

We worked on our friendship after sometime apart and well I fell pregnant. We then fell apart as friends because he doesn’t want anything to do with it. (It was hard to accept at first but I’m slowly getting there)

She has made me feel so bad falling pregnant with him and drops hints that it’s a mistake to keep it. (I have had many thought about this and I have had really bad depression during this pregnancy, but I can’t give up possibly my only chance of having kids)

I’m trying to organise my baby shower and I was set on a date but it didn’t suit her (she moved about 8 hours away and it didn’t suit her work schedule)

Every other date I tried organising wouldn’t suit her either.

I’ve now had to plan it for when I’m almost 38 weeks pregnant and I’m worried my baby might come early because of some health issues and I’ve seen people that have had covid during pregnancy have their babies early.

Am I the bad person for not wanting her there?

Obviously she will be going but how do I make it clear that I want her to respect me and also respect what I want without making it about her?

She is always big on making herself look good in photos and posting everything straight away but she never makes sure I like how I look in photos or if I’m ready to post about things.

She told everyone where she lives about my pregnancy before I even told my family (her excuse was that no one knows me but it actually got back to where we live because it’s a small world)