Is it normal that I want to be hot, not cute?

Question

Anyone else feel the same way? I feel guilty because I’m a mother but my self esteem isn’t 100% when I’m just cute. I feel powerful and sexy when I look hot 🔥 even my sex drive increases. Anyone else? I used to be vanilla for the longest time but now I’m 28 and suddenly feel kinky.

Answer

Just because you're a mom doesn't mean you can't be hot/dress hot anymore. I prefer to be hot over cute and I've got two kids plus another due in December.

Answer

Nothing wrong with wanting to be hot. A change in sexual appetite is normal as we age, women don't reach their sexual peak until their late 30s early 40s so its perfectly normal that your late 20s might see things start to ramp up. 
Being a mum often comes with a loss of a sense of self, our bodies change rapidly, our time is suddenly split lots of different ways, we sometimes put others needs before our own. Making yourself feel sexy is so important to your identity as a sexual woman again, instead of being someone's mum. It's okay to want to be hot, it's okay to want to be desirable. Just because you're a mum doesn't mean your femininity and sexual life has to stop at all.