So frustrated!

Okay so long story short - my husband and I moved in with my parents as a temporary arrangement a couple of years ago. Then my mom had a double knee replacement, then, she had a back surgery, then a couple of other health issues. My dad had multiple surgeries as well. Add in COVID and these insane home prices and well we’re still here. We’ve looked often for places to go to get back out on our own, but right now with things the way they are it just doesn’t make sense for us to move out. There’s plenty of room, we all get along, my mom watches our toddler and baby for us while we’re at work along with all of the other grandkids. My husband and I help with food and groceries and household bills, we do 90% of the yard/garden and we take care of most household repairs and maintenance too. We help financially, like we literally help with anything that’s needed. 2 of my siblings have no problem with this arrangement at all. They’re in the same boat and stuck where they are because of the market. My older brother who doesn’t come around often but when and if he does feels a need to lecture my parents and try to convince them to throw us out?? We asked him where we would go and he said “a basement apartment!” How is that different than where I currently am? Besides the fact that I’d be giving more than half our monthly income to a stranger?? At least here I’m able to save a bit each month. This literally happens every single time he comes over. He rants and raves about how we need to go and then when they don’t agree to kick us to the curb he takes his kids and storms out. Like wtf??

The home he was lucky enough to buy years and years ago (just after the collapse) cost him $120,000. Today he could list his home for $650,000 if not more. Even with both of us working we can’t afford the payment on that. Our town is small and there’s a ton of people moving into it paying cash hundreds of thousands over asking price. The rent on our old apartment tripled in a year and a half. We couldn’t even afford to move back into our apartment right now not to mention everyone wants first and last months rent plus outrageous deposits. We’d need to put down almost 10K cash just to get a decent apartment and then we’re putting that cash into someone else’s pocket.

Eventually I imagine that I will be the one physically caring for my parents anyways just because of the family dynamic so either they move in with us or we end up moving in with them, hopefully that is years and years down the road but I don’t see how that’s so different??

Obviously this isn’t what I thought my life would look like and it’s definitely not the norm but I just don’t understand why he chooses to bring this up every single time we get together??