Husband almost let baby fall over a rail onto staircase

Let me start by saying that I know we are due for another baby proof inspection. I am normally on top of these things but wasn’t this time.

He was not paying attention to the baby because he was too focused on the fucking video game. I was getting ready to take a shower and I said to him, “I’m getting in the shower now….”, he said okay …

I go in the room and get close out, preparing for shower and realize I do t have a brush to wrap my hair. so when I come out I heard the baby and realized he wasn’t in the play pen, he was on the couch and pulling himself up on the staircase rail about to fall head first from the second floor on to the wood steps… I grabbed him before he fell and my husband only turned his head bc he heard me call out for our son and then I fussed his name bc, wtf!!!

I was/am so livid. While I do give grace most times bc shit happens, I couldn’t this time because our son could have been seriously injured or worse… all because he was so focused on his stupid fucking video game.

With that being said, I took a deep breath and told myself I would talked him after I showered…

When I confront him he reacts exactly like I knew he would, defensive like I did something to him. He immediately starts gaslighting me and telling me “but did he fall?? But did he fall??” Like I have no reason to be upset! Like how can you not understand that him not paying attention is worth more than a discussion. How can he not see how this is wrong and say “you know what, I should been watching him closely…”. We both know he likes to climb and is at the age when he wants to explore and every parents knows that that is when you have to keep an eye on him..

When I brought it up, I wasn’t yelling at all… before I could finish my sentence, he is being dismissive and basically trying to make me feel like I shouldn’t be upset & I’m that I’m overreacting. I knew he was going to act that way and it’s exactly what happened…..

Yell ling started up, he keeps telling me to stfu and get out of his face when I was feet away from him… then ghe gets up and calls me stupid bitch… I got pissed and threw A diaper at his leg.. he threw a pillowst me face, I pushed him, he pushed me and scratched our sons nose….

Now rhe screaming and yelling is on 1000.

It got so bad.

I dont get how he can get mad at ME because I am upset that he was supposed to be watching the baby and not glued to his video game… and almost fell onto a flight of stairs… that is wild to me.

Im truly at a loss for words.

Would you be upset with your partner if they werent paying attention to your baby?

Almost letting baby get seriously hurt. He would DEFINITELY be losses at me.