Long story short…

Vaginismus is when your body involuntarily doesn’t allow anything in your vagina)

I only had ever had sex with my ex husband. And it HURT. He never pleasured me enough and would just stick it in. Sometimes he wouldnt even be able to go in because I’d tense up so much just from feeling mentally uncomfortable around him.

He ended up getting me pregnant still, but left me while I was pregnant. Because I couldnt have proper sex.

I went to pelvic therapy thinking theres something wrong with me because my ex could barely ever enter me. The doctor said I was totally fine, and it was me not trusting my ex mentally.

My son is now 2. I met a new man whose been taking it VERYY slow with me, sexually. We’ve been seeing eachother for 3 months. He understands my past and we’ve been going at my pace.

Last night things were getting heated. I was saying lets have sex. He said “are you sure? Only if you’re comfortable” i said I was ready and he went very slowly.. and bam! He went in me easily and we did missionary. I was a little tense in the beginning since its been so long but warmed up quickly. We both smiled so big and had a great experience.

I was so happy that my body accepted him and realized my doctor was right. It was my ex, not my body. My ex didnt know how to turn me on properly and was not good to me so sexually I just felt very tense with him.

Anyways, I’m so happy that I CAN have good sex!